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Discipline

1. If children are homeschooled, how will they learn to follow a routine?
For Muslims, five daily Salah timings are enough to demarcate the day into various slots for all kinds of activities. For example, Quran recitals/ memorisation / creative writing after Fajr prayers, lunch and nap after Zuhr, park visits after Asr, Math / artwork after Maghrib and reading aloud sessions before bedtime during the foundational years can help develop an effective routine which can be customized as they grow.

Read more about setting up a routine in our challenges section.

2. If children are homeschooled, how will they learn to respect authority and follow rules?
Parents, homeschooling or otherwise need to make sure they give priority to consistency and mutual respect when dealing with setting and implementing rules. Being firm and consistent teaches your child that you care enough about him to expect responsible behaviour. Set a good example early on: When your child tries to tell you something, stop what you're doing, focus your attention, and listen. Later you can require the same courtesy from him/her.

3. Children are willing to obey teachers, but take parents lightly. What if they don't listen to the parents at home?
Children generally obey teachers out of fear. But children obey parents as a result of the bonding, affection and mutual respect they share with each other in a homely environment. Even if children don't listen to teachers at school and in cases of misbehaviour and/or bullying, it's the parents who are asked to report and do the needful. So schools or no schools, it IS the parent's responsibility to make themselves seriously taken by the children.

4. If children do not go to school, how will they learn to do things that may be boring or they don’t want to do?
Homeschooling does not mean bringing school into home. Hence the classroom model should be rejected and advantage should be taken of homeschooling’s flexible nature. You can meet authors, artists, scientists, engineers, traders, masons and carpenters and encourage children to ask questions / learn from them. Take something apart, build something, write and read together. When there is something they do not want to do, they cannot learn much from the activity. However the obligatory activities/duties our Creator has assigned to us can only become interesting if the ultimate purpose is well defined and shared with the entire family.

Many a times, it helps to re-address the necessity of teaching something that children find boring. Is it really important for them to know what you are trying to teach? Is it a goal in itself or a means to a bigger goal? If you think anew about these aspects, you may end up deciding to quit what is not really needed and thus can focus on knowledge / skills that are actually beneficial for your children’s Deen and Dunya.

5. If there are no tests and exams, how will children learn to manage time and meet deadlines?
Without the structure of school, how will children learn organisation and time management skills?

With a well-organized lifestyle at home and punctuality practiced on daily basis children don't need another premises/walled structure to learn these skills. Punctuality and time management is an essential ingredient of the Islamic lifestyle, where one is supposed to follow the Salah timings and live a meaningful life. So if you are “living Islam”, you are seamlessly raising punctual and organized children, who value time as a precious gift from Allah.

Moreover, when parents and older siblings are modeling time management, actively participating in homemaking and have closets, drawers, documents, neatly organized, it just starts running in the family. Children can be encouraged to set up their own daily / weekly task lists, schedules and deadlines for tasks – theyare more likely to follow these if it is they who are setting up and they who have to accomplish it. Some simple rewards or points system can be established for training the younger ones in organization, time management and discipline.




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